Dialectics: Conflict vs problems

First, this week, my brothers Lee and Phillip are here. In illinois. at my house. With them, there are four of us. four boys, and all three of them take medicines for varying degrees of ADHD, bipolar disorder, and other endless sources of destructive energy. Together in the same room, there's usually always a conflict. In under one hour of playing Xbox, all these conflicts were argued
(loudly):

• Someone is not a satisfactory teammate. teammate wants to switch partners.


• someone thinks that their couch space has ben encroached upon. Demands reorginization
  
• Someone finishes the ice cream. Someone else did not get to eat any ice cream.


• Someone claims a territory on the game map. others disagreed. someone kicks someone else

But, there wasn't really a problem behind any of these. just a conflict. The prolem is a group of people that can't handle conflict, and so the conflict escalates. That's a problem.
and so on.